Sex-negative messages don’t keep people from having sex. They keep people from having good sex. They keep people from having pride in their sexuality, from sexual self-awareness. They keep people from asking questions about sex, and communicating with their partners. They discourage experimentation. They blur the lines between consensual sex and rape by framing all sex as an undifferentiated mass of “bad.
In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.
— Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)
Don’t over-analyze. In general, just try not to do it…but specifically, don’t over-analyze about a relationship.
don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and show your feelings and stuff.
if you feel safe with someone, let them know.
probably not within the first few dates, but a few months down the line, give it a shot.
It’s really not the end of the world if you over-eat on a holiday.
Just be careful not to bloat on a date…mmmkay?
You’ll get a man in good time, and all the daydreaming in the world won’t make him come along any faster. It will only make your solitude more miserable.
Keep a few pairs nicely folded at the back of your underwear drawer.
Save them for special occasions.
You’ll thank me later.
positivity. not necessarily optimism. just be a happy + content realist.
change if you want to; if you are in control of it and it is for the better anyways